Relationship issues
The importance of your relationships
We are biologically programmed to be ‘social’ beings and therefore are dependent on our relationships for our well-being and very survival . In other words, we need other humans like we need food and water.
This also means that if those relationships become strained or painful, they can deeply affect our emotional health, self-esteem, and day-to-day functioning.
Common ways relationship struggles can impact us:
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Feeling anxious, rejected, or emotionally overwhelmed.
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Losing motivation or focus at work.
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Repeating unhealthy patterns that leave us feeling stuck.
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Withdrawing from others out of fear of being hurt.
Why the same relationship problems repeat
It is common to find the problems or patterns we experience in relationships are all too familiar, as they often re-emerge when relationship undergo strain. The reason for this happens is frequently due to relational patterns which have been conditioned into us early on in life. They quickly established as the templates for what we believe relationships to be, and how we experience others and ourselves in relationship.
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However, as these patterns are unconscious, we don’t know that they are there and therefore aren't able to adapt them to improve our relationships.
How therapy can help
Therapy offers a space to step back from these relational difficulties and, working with a professional, listen together to what's going on for you and start to learn what unconscious processes are taking place between you and others. As these relational patterns start to emerge, you will be able to understand your experiences in a broader and more meaningful way. You will then start to be able to make positive changes to your relationships.​​
Relational therapy can help in the following ways:
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Understand the relational patterns you unconsciously enact with others.
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Develop relational patterns and relationships which work better for you.
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Build healthier boundaries and communication.
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Reduce anxiety, conflict, and emotional isolation.
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Feel more confident and content in your relationships.
Free phone consultation
The first step is for us to have a chat. I offer a 30 minute free phone consultation where we'll discuss what issues bring you to psychotherapy, I can answer any questions you may have and you'll get a sense if working with me feels right. We'll then discuss possible options moving forwards.
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